Funerals are being significantly impacted by the current situation. There is a huge need for bereavement care, as well as adapting to short or even no ceremony at all. This page will be updated regularly with resources to help you share God’s love and hope with those in your community.
At present you are able to continue to hold small funeral services by the graveside and at the crematoria, keeping to guidelines of hygiene and social distancing.
Not attending a funeral is a very difficult experience for people, in spite of recent suggestions that ‘no fuss’ is a good idea. The reality is many will feel additional grief, especially if they could not say goodbye properly.
- Liaise with your local funeral directors: they are gathering a lot of information, both practically and pastorally. Many families will no longer get to meet with them in person, and the situation will be stressful for everyone involved. Make sure they know who is available, and about the online resources, prayers and advice available to families.
- Mostly, it will not be possible to make a pastoral visit, so phone calls and Skype calls to help families with the arrangements will be important, especially where premature and tragic deaths occur.
- Send a card with a prayer if possible – there is a FREE ready-made one here to order or to download at home.
- Reassure them that you will still be praying for them and their friends and family, whether or not they would have had a church funeral.
- Suggest to people that they can light a candle online. On the Church Print Hub you can order a free printed poster or download it for free, plus download free social media images to help you tell people about this option.
- Email or post out a Funeral reflection to those who will be absent so they use at home of they wish on the day of the funeral. A new resource has just been published for this purpose – download it here.
- If there are Order of Service booklets being done, ask the funeral director to email a copy so that the family can forward them on to those who can’t be there.
- Think about different ways you can offer services after the crisis. For example, additional remembering services, not just at All Souls, or a specific personal space either formal and informal. We will be suggesting a way of creating ‘share and tell’, a simple way of recalling someone’s life, offering prayers, sharing memories, and finding hope for the future, with the space curated by the local church community. These and other ideas will be shared on www.churchsupporthub.org.
- In the coming days we will also be posting articles which could be used in a parish magazine or website to help those in the community who are grieving. Check the Support Hub and sign up for the e-newsletter (from the Home page, yellow tab bottom right) to get updates on new resources.
New FREE resources for Funerals
1. Reflection for use at home for those who can’t attend a funeral. Download it here.
OR – you can order it for FREE, ready-printed from the Church Print Hub in a pack of 50. Follow this link to order.
2. Sympathy card for those who can’t attend a Funeral. See the quick download version here.
OR – you can order FREE ready-printed cards from the Church Print Hub in a pack of 20. Follow this link to order.
A card to offer comfort to people who can’t attend a funeral. It features a short prayer which could be said at home on the day of the funeral, or the days after.
3. Poster to raise awareness of the online Light a Candle tool – helpful for people who can’t attend a funeral. See the quick download version here
OR – you can order FREE ready-printed A3 posters from the Church Print Hub. Follow this link to order.
“Show you care when you can’t be there” A printed poster to display in your community, on the church noticeboard, or in parishioners’ windows to bring hope and a sense of being connected in unsettling times.
5. Downloadable social media images to raise awareness of the online Light a Candle feature
“Show you care when you can’t be there” A social media download pre-sized for Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Light a Candle is a way of remembering someone who has died and of marking their funeral even when you can’t be there in person. Post this image on social media to offer support to people who are grieving alone at home.