Stillbirth and infant death can still stop even the toughest of us in our tracks. The death of a baby is an awful event, and we’re afraid of saying the wrong thing and making it worse. This time of lockdown and collective anxiety/trauma can make it more challenging, both emotionally and practically, to respond.
I had a stillbirth at 27 weeks and a late miscarriage at 18 weeks. I’m also a Diocesan Officer and former Children and Families Worker. Here are some suggestions, from me and other bereaved parents, to help you navigate this challenging pastoral situation. Some of these are general tips that apply at all times, some more specific to this situation.
I have put together a Pinterest board of resources for church leaders, including children’s books for siblings, some readings and liturgies for funerals, and organisations to refer onward to. You can find it all by following this link.